Why I can’t stand Taylor Swift
Taylor, No! Bad Tay Swift, Bad!
People need to get it through their heads that saying “I’M NOT HOMOPHOBIC (or racist, sexist, etc.)” does not magically make you a good person and/or impervious to critique. You actually have to understand both what these things are and how they affect people … and then act like a good, respectful human being.
The first way is by not buying into masculinist presumptions about femininity. In feminism and in the queer community, there’s a strong anti-feminine attitude. If you look at the gay male community, masculinity is praised, femininity is suspect. If you look at the lesbian community, masculinity is praised, femininity is suspect. We have to get that out of our heads. Whenever I hear a feminist argue that women are subordinating themselves to men when they dress up, to me it sounds like a slightly toned-down version of “women who dress provocatively are asking for it.” It’s the same argument.
My fellow queers and assorted allies: we have got to stop using arguments like “We were born this way!” and “Being queer is not a choice!” as our first line of defense against heterosexists. It might sound like a neat little trick to pull on these people: if we can’t help being queer, then it’s not fair to punish us for something we didn’t do. But in reality, every time we use this argument we are actually weakening our own position. Shouting “Born this way” from the rooftops is the opposite of progress…. I think the most serious problem with this argument is that it reinforces the idea that we need an excuse to be queer. As a result, using this line subtly supports the idea that being queer requires excusing in some way. Don’t use it. Don’t allow straight people to generate an understanding of queer sexuality that sounds like: “Well, of course Bob wouldn’t wish to be queer, but he was born this way. I guess we better give him equal rights – poor Bob, he just can’t help it. We shouldn’t punish him for something he didn’t choose!”
Meanwhile the real reason that you shouldn’t punish Bob for queerness is because there’s nothing wrong with it!
At the 7th annual Soweto Pride March, held in Meadowlands, Soweto, South Africa.
-noun 1. a homosexual.
–adjective 2. advocating or supportive of the interests, civil rights, and welfare of homosexuals; gay: a homophile activist organization.
HI MOM GUESS WHAT!
I wonder why homophile died out? IMO, the -phile suffix sounds better than -sexual.
I also love that sign.
“We can’t take a step backwards when we’ve already made so many strides forward. I was raised by gay men and women…it’s who I am, you cannot define a family. There are children out there who need these loving homes. These are rights that are fundamental and must be had. And I will fight for however long it takes; I don’t want to live in a world where prop 8 exists!”