Problem: Once you set a gender on your Facebook profile, you can’t reset it to neutral. Although you can choose to hide your gender from your info page, it still appears when referencing you, as in “X changed his profile picture”.
Solution: As seen here. For Firefox users - use Firebug to edit the HTML of the dropdown selection box and add in a third option with a value of zero. This returns your reference pronouns to they, their etc.
Problem #2: Facebook changes profile to “Timeline” setup. Above solution stops working.
Solution #2: Okay, here’s the instructional part. The trick is nearly identical to the one above.
1) Get an HTML inspector, e.g. Firebug for Firefox. These instructions are written for Firebug users, but can be adapted to other HTML inspectors.
2) Open Facebook Mobile.
3) Click “Timeline” to go to your profile page.
4) Under your name, click “Edit profile”.
5) Under “Basic information”, click “Sex”.
6) Radio button options for “Male” and “Female” appear.
Right click the radio button which is selected. (In this example, it’d be the “Male” radio button.) From the context menu, select “Inspect Element With Firebug”.
7) Firebug will highlight a line of code, <label onclick=””>.
Expand the line of code by clicking the plus sign on the left.
8) The line expands into the following block of code:
Right click the line that begins “<input type…” and select “Edit HTML”.
9) A line of code appears.
Note the property “value”. The “Male” option has value 2, the “Female” option value 1.
Copy the line and paste it so you have two lines of code. Remove the checked=”1” from the first line of code. In the second one, change the value to zero (value=”0”).
10) Your code should look something like this:
Looking up from the Firebug panel, you’ll notice the page has changed to include an extra radio button, which is checked:
Click save to submit the value “0” from the radio button you created, and you’re done!
good news for trans women & other trans female spectrum folx and those of us who like to have sex with them:
the once super hard to get ahold of “brazen: trans women safer sex guide” by morgan m page (put out by the 519) is now available for download in pdf form!
this is a super important and awesome resource and i’m not really aware of anything else like it out there—i learned a lot of important (and also sexy) stuff reading it and now you can too!
Instead of trying to fictionalize gender, let’s talk about the moments in life when gender feels all too real. Because gender doesn’t feel like drag when you’re a young trans child begging your parents not to cut your hair or not to force you to wear that dress. And gender doesn’t feel like a performance when, for the first time in your life, you feel safe and empowered enough to express yourself in ways that resonate with you, rather than remaining closeted for the benefit of others. And gender doesn’t feel like a construct when you finally find that special person whose body, personality, identity, and energy feels like a perfect fit with yours. Let’s stop trying to deconstruct gender into nonexistence, and instead start celebrating it as inexplicable, varied, profound, and intricate.
The fact that I have chosen to use the pronoun she does not mean I am always comfortable with the word, or that it has ceased to chafe me in certain places. I make this choice for more practical reasons. She fits better than he does, and I am interested in stretching and expanding what the word she can encompass.
I thought about 10 times before sending this
Yes, it’s true. 10 times. Maybe a few more with each word.
I kept telling myself - It’s none of my business (which is probably true), you may be stating the obvious (which is probably true), you risk creeping people out (well, it comes naturally).
Well, anyway, getting to the point. And well, the obvious point.
You’re a lesbian aren’t you? (Gosh, that sounds really pointed, but I didn’t mean it that way).
Why do I ask, you ask? Ummm, I guess because I knew from the time I met you and over time it seems like you’re grown into your own skin. And well finally with the name change and all, I guess it’s very official.
I just wanted to say that I’m very happy for you (whatever that counts for) and that you’re an inspiration :) I’m very glad I got to know you :D
I received this message in August 2010, just after I changed my name on Facebook. While the sender clearly meant well, it made me exceedingly uncomfortable and still makes me cringe.
- If you have to think about something 10 times and are pretty sure it’s not a good idea, then it probably isn’t a good idea.
- Asking someone, especially someone with whom you are not close, if they are gay/queer/whatever is generally not okay.
- Just no.
what not to do when someone asks you to use certain pronouns
- ask them why
- ask them whats between their legs
- tell them theyre wrong
- hammer them with personal questions
what to do when someone asks you to use certain pronouns:
- call them by those pronouns
- have a snack if you want w/e youre pretty much done here